Breaking Cycles Without Breaking Connection-
Healing ancestral pain without rejecting where you come from.

It's a fine line, a dance, the ability to listen, feel, and respond.

Oftentimes, we lean into extremes of right or wrong. There’s a perception of comfort when we think we know something unequivocally, without doubt. But very little actually exists in the extremes. The reality is that life is far more grey - or, more accurately, a multitude of shades and colours. Layers of depth. Complex, living, breathing, and infinitely more interesting than any fixed idea of how something should be.

What often happens is that we witness a family member's behaviour and judge it on a surface level, without understanding the experiences that created it. And we react - rejecting not just the behaviour, but the person themselves. These overcorrections don’t save us from unhealthy emotional responses, or from being abused or manipulated. In fact, they can lead us into those very possibilities. When ...

We’ve been taught to believe that our genes are set in stone. That if our mother had anxiety, we will too. If our grandfather developed a certain illness, it’s only a matter of time before we do. If our ancestors aged poorly, so will we.

But here’s the truth: nothing is fixed - not even your genetic expression.

We don’t just inherit eye colour or bone structure. We inherit belief systems, energetic patterns, and outdated worldviews. These hand-me-downs can shape the way we see the world, and the way our bodies respond to it.

Ancestral experiences live in us, not just emotionally or psychologically, but physically. Illness, imbalance, deterioration, disconnection - so much of it can be tracked across generations. But that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to repeat the past.

Science tells us that only about 5% of diseases are fully penetrant - meaning you will experience them no matter what. And even that, I’d argue, can shift. Because the rest? It's all responsive, adaptable, changeable.