True Self Care (not the quick fix kind)

I recently returned from a week away (and can highly recommend Split, Croatia), and once again, I was reminded of how necessary self care is.

Emphasis on necessary.

As a healer, I see a common pattern - people often wait until things are really bad before they seek support. This isn’t a judgment or a call-out. It’s deeply human to try and juggle everything, to keep going so we don’t risk dropping it all. I really get it. But my hope is that this post brings to the forefront of your awareness what self care truly means.

So much of what we see online under the guise of "self care" is really just surface care. At best, a temporary fix. At worst, a coping mechanism that leaves us more depleted.

One of my favourite shows, Parks and Rec, has this iconic scene where two characters rush off on a shopping spree shouting, “Treat yo’ self!” as they swipe their cards with abandon. Hilarious? Absolutely. But also painfully accurate for how many of us attempt to soothe or “care” for ourselves - with things that don’t actually nourish or sustain.

True self care begins with honouring yourself - your body, your mind, your spirit - enough to love more fully. It’s about choosing what genuinely contributes to your health and happiness. It’s speaking about things that light you up, connecting with what expands your heart, inviting in laughter, honesty, rest, and joy.

“Treat yo’ self!” is a dopamine hit. A distraction.
Caring for yourself means you care about cause and effect. You care how your choices ripple through your system. You care enough to listen. To pause. To feel.

When we decided to take a week away, I spent time really feeling into where would nurture us. I chose Croatia because I sensed the land would feel peaceful and grounding. I knew the food would be sun-grown and delicious. I knew being near the sea would cleanse and soothe us. I even left my laptop in Edinburgh to avoid the pull of work. And yes, I did treat myself to a gelato every day, my inner child loved every bite! But that’s the difference: when we’re deeply nourished, a sweet treat is a joy, not a bandage.

So many of us are quietly burning out. Running on caffeine and cortisol. Overworking and under-resting. Refusing to pause because we’re afraid of what might unravel if we do. But we need sunlight. We need space to breathe and reflect. And while I don’t believe you have to travel to take care of yourself, I do believe real self care often asks you to shift how you spend your time, what you consume - food, media, energy - and how you make your daily choices.

Pause for a moment. Notice what excuses or justifications are bubbling up as you read this. These are your signposts. These are the parts asking for your attention. What would it take to set the excuses aside?

Over the coming days, I invite you to sit with these questions:

• If I treated myself the way I treat my loved ones, what would shift in my daily life? Would I rest more? Meditate more? Push less? Judge less?

• If I made self care a priority, what would I need to release, reduce, or rearrange?

• When do I default to the quick fix? When I’m tired? Overwhelmed? Defeated? Bored?

• How can I remember to honour myself in the moment - especially when it’s not the easiest choice?

Learning to care for yourself is a process, fluid and evolving. But you can make meaningful changes whenever you choose.

So I’ll leave you with this - What could you remember, understand, or reclaim today that would allow you to lean more fully into care, respect, and honour, for you?

Sending blessings for true self care, and ease in choosing honour and peace.

-Jennifer <3

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