Traditional teachings state that we give and take energy, and that we feel most uncomfortable as we take on ‘other people’s stuff’. I used to believe this too, and while it helped me to imagine releasing another’s energy as I set new boundaries, nothing fully resolved as a result. I believe that right now we can change the way we look at ourselves energetically, and revolutionise the healing process.

Most of us follow the model that states that life is an energetic exchange, a give and take. We give away our power, we take our mother’s grief, we feel drained by those who are parasitical, or we surround ourselves with successful people so that we can feel elevated by the energy. But energy is energy, and it heeds intention. It will always flow towards equilibrium. Think of energy as a glass of water. We can pour water into one side of the cup, but it will even itself out, same as any other moveable substance. The energy wants to be in...