How do we Relinquish that which we cling to tightest?

My dreams over the past week or so have been strange- seemingly darker, unfamiliar, seen through strange lenses, all fitting well into the themes and views of Scorpio Season. These, along with countless other interactions, conversations, challenges, continue to bring me back to the question: How can we relinquish that which we cling to?

We approach the holiday season, where people celebrate some beautiful traditions, and some strive for an illusion. We can become fixed in how we believe a day, a conversation, an action should unfold, and then inevitably feel disappointment or defeated when it does not. Because in truth, it never could. The story in our minds was never real to begin with.

We cling to a brighter version of history, omitting the obstacles and conflict, and then wonder why we can never recreate it. But it never really happened that way before.

We cling to the unreal, un-lived, disembodied versions of what we feel we are supposed to experience, instead of creating moments, years, lives and paradigms that may be without the 'Instagram filters', but are deeper, richer, more real.

And when we stop trying to recreate an illusion, we can work with the tools and matter before us. This is where healing happens. This is where truth is expressed. This is where our bodies relax, our minds calm and focus, and we enter into the Present Moment. This is the only moment where anything really happens. And if we are chasing a dream, head in the clouds, rejecting what is present and tangible, we never receive the gifts that it brings.

Through the end of this year, through the holiday season, where we strive for impossible, intangible, an unreal picture, I would encourage you to shake off the illusions of the past, and shake up any part of you trying to recreate a time that cannot be forced here now. Open your eyes to what is before you, take stock of what you have to work with, and begin to build on more solid foundations. You, your relationships, and paradigm will become healthier, happier, and more whole for it.

A few things worth meditating on: 

• What moments, feelings, visions am I trying to recreate in my life that are of another place and time? What would be possible now that is different, but fulfilling and expansive?
• What expectations am I trying to live up to, or prove (from society, family, cultural norms, etc)? If I released them, what could that freedom bring instead?
• When I look back at my life, my family, my experiences, when do I feel shame, blame, judgement (towards self, or them)? How do I overcompensate for these feelings? How do I overcorrect?
• If I could redesign the rest of the year with total freedom, without feeling obligated by outside forces (family, society, media, etc), what would I actually choose to do, eat, drink, consume, buy, give, participate in? Could I introduce even one of those ideas now?

Remember that we can never recreate the past, because we are different, others have evolved, the cosmos has moved, the alchemy has changed! So if we cannot make something happen again, why not create something greater? You are able to choose your experience. What will you create at the end of this year?

 -Jennifer <3

P.S. We end the Autumn Season with the Winter Solstice Event on 21 December! This event is included in our new ReMembering Collective Membership, or you can simply join us to celebrate one season, and start the next fresh, bright, and aligned!