(i.e. What are you afraid will happen if you allow yourself to have what you want?)
I listen to people frequently talk about what is lacking in life. They visualise, speak, imagine, and work towards their ambitions and goals. They work so hard to create.
These are also the same people who have a hard time receiving. They reject compliments, support, affection, recognition. And if you refuse to receive what you want, you can never expect to have it.
The reason we resist is because we are afraid. We invest time and energy into stopping events, or trying to control others, because we are afraid of what would happen next.
My question for you:
Are you stopping yourself from receiving what you desire because you also fear making the change?
Your comfort zone is too small for your biggest dreams.
Your daily comforts and habits are minuscule, compared to your purpose.
Your ‘normal’ is duller than your deepest desires.
What are you afraid of?
What are your...
(i.e. Is your stubbornness stopping your evolution?)
There is a part of me that can appreciate a little rebellion. There are times when shaking up the ‘status quo’ is good for the world. But I can also see how we can become stubborn or fixed when we feel that our rights or desires are being pushed or threatened.
Where does fixation become so fixed that we lose sight of our true desire?
The issue of ‘standing up for myself’ has come up pretty regularly with clients over the past few weeks. When we delve into why it needs to be done, there is always a fear of being threatened, manipulated, or of something being taken away.
But you cannot be ‘manipulated’ without permitting.
Nothing can be taken from you without your allowing.
And you can never be threatened if you are not afraid.
We resist what we are afraid of, of what we do not understand. And if you do not understand how to say no, set a boundary, change the dynamics,...
We talk a lot about self-sabotage and avoidance and try to create strategies to fight resistance. But why do we experience resistance at all?
We resist delving deep within, the pressure of deep diving.
Have you ever seen what free divers do? Free divers go into the water, without oxygen, with only a few pieces of equipment, very little support. They can risk their lives to push the limits of their bodies, pushing themselves a little more with each dive, to go deeper, longer, just to see what they can do, continually pushing the line between life and death.
Most of us are deeply afraid of anything that resembles this, but we emulate this behaviour as we push our comfort zones, and as we delve within ourselves. We are deeply complex. We are the sun and stars, blood and guts, fury and ecstasy, and this terrifies us. The duality becomes a whirlpool that we fear being sucked into, because we believe that we could never escape. But if we actually allow ourselves to go...