I was listening to a podcast at 3am (I am really feeling this eclipse portal), interviewing Chris Hemsworth about his career. They interview a lot of actors and musicians on Smartless, and he told a story I’ve heard many times before. He said he was just about to give up when he landed his breakthrough role, the one that truly got him started. This story, or one very similar, is repeated far too often to be random. And it isn’t.

Today I wanted to gently explore why we reach that quitting point, that breaking point, and how sometimes that very edge is the turn of the tide.

Human beings often struggle with change. We desperately want a feeling or circumstance to move in another direction, yet when we begin to examine what has caused it, we can subconsciously start to retreat. The abstract becomes real, and we recognise our role in it all. It can feel confronting and uncomfortable, and it asks something of us. So often, we wait until it becomes so painful that we cannot tolerate it stay...

(i.e. What are you afraid will happen if you allow yourself to have what you want?)

I listen to people frequently talk about what is lacking in life.  They visualise, speak, imagine, and work towards their ambitions and goals.  They work so hard to create.
These are also the same people who have a hard time receiving.  They reject compliments, support, affection, recognition.  And if you refuse to receive what you want, you can never expect to have it.
The reason we resist is because we are afraid.  We invest time and energy into stopping events, or trying to control others, because we are afraid of what would happen next.

My question for you:
Are you stopping yourself from receiving what you desire because you also fear making the change?

Your comfort zone is too small for your biggest dreams.
Your daily comforts and habits are minuscule, compared to your purpose.
Your ‘normal’ is duller than your deepest desires.

What are you afraid of?
What are your biggest fears?
In which ways do you ...

(i.e. Is your stubbornness stopping your evolution?)

There is a part of me that can appreciate a little rebellion.  There are times when shaking up the ‘status quo’ is good for the world.  But I can also see how we can become stubborn or fixed when we feel that our rights or desires are being pushed or threatened.
Where does fixation become so fixed that we lose sight of our true desire?

The issue of ‘standing up for myself’ has come up pretty regularly with clients over the past few weeks.  When we delve into why it needs to be done, there is always a fear of being threatened, manipulated, or of something being taken away.

But you cannot be ‘manipulated’ without permitting.
Nothing can be taken from you without your allowing.
And you can never be threatened if you are not afraid.

We resist what we are afraid of, of what we do not understand.  And if you do not understand how to say no, set a boundary, change the dynamics, fear will motivate you to avoid or fight back.

What if you re...

What is Resistance?

We talk a lot about self-sabotage and avoidance and try to create strategies to fight resistance. But why do we experience resistance at all?

We resist delving deep within, the pressure of deep diving.

Have you ever seen what free divers do? Free divers go into the water, without oxygen, with only a few pieces of equipment, very little support. They can risk their lives to push the limits of their bodies, pushing themselves a little more with each dive, to go deeper, longer, just to see what they can do, continually pushing the line between life and death.

Most of us are deeply afraid of anything that resembles this, but we emulate this behaviour as we push our comfort zones, and as we delve within ourselves. We are deeply complex. We are the sun and stars, blood and guts, fury and ecstasy, and this terrifies us. The duality becomes a whirlpool that we fear being sucked into, because we believe that we could never escape. But if we actually allow ourselves to go...