Hello beautiful beings, I hope you’re all well! I’ve just returned from some precious time with family in North and South Carolina - filled with good food, sweet tea, and soul-nourishing connection.

Earlier this month, before I knew I’d be traveling back, I began writing a list: What happens when we talk about the things we don’t want to talk about? The uncomfortable stuff. The long-held family secrets. The moments we’d rather leave in the shadows.
And to my surprise, some beautiful things emerged.

I want to share a few reflections with you - not just the hard truths, but the healing that becomes possible when we begin to speak. There were even a few unexpected gifts in the mix, and I hope these words help you see communication in a new light.

The Unspoken Legacy

Most of us, if we look back a few generations, can find an ancestor whose choices brought shame to the family - maybe something illegal, prejudiced, immature, or simply misguided. And so, we don’t talk about them. Those con...

A few months ago, I sat in meditation, asking what the focus of my work should be throughout the Spring. I offered a few ideas, which were gently set aside. And then the word Ancestors sang through.

Ancestral work has always been woven through the healing and teachings I offer. It is so important, because the beliefs, characteristics, emotions, and lived experiences of our family lines are etched into our DNA, present in nearly every cell. Those who came before us have a very real foothold in our present.

One of the biggest surprises in working with genetics is how deeply we can be impacted by people whose names we don’t even know, whose stories were never told. And yet, somehow, we carry their unfinished business.

If an ancestor believed they failed…
If they broke a promise…
If they carried guilt for the choices they made…
We may find ourselves entangled in the after-effects, playing out the punishment, feeling the shame, struggling with invisible burdens.

Many of us come from lineag...

Every memory we recall, every bit of gossip we share, every bit of wisdom we offer has a story behind it, and within it.

Think about it for a moment - even the purest moment of epiphany becomes a story. You recall aspects of where you were, who you were with, how you felt in the moment, and then how you began to respond. You recognise the cause and effect of the choices you made, the changes you chose as a result. And you can recognise what lead you to the realisation in the first place, the series of events, what triggered or inspired you.

In one sense, the story is incredible useful, becuase it helps you to create meaning, or understand yourself in new ways. When we look back at our lives, or those of our family members, we can see points plotted out over time, that shaped perspectives, experiences, quality of life, and direction. 

And if we can continue to see things from that higher perspective to learn and apply the wisdom, we're in a good place to learn and grow.

What can als...