Breaking Cycles Without Breaking Connection-
Healing ancestral pain without rejecting where you come from.

It's a fine line, a dance, the ability to listen, feel, and respond.

Oftentimes, we lean into extremes of right or wrong. There’s a perception of comfort when we think we know something unequivocally, without doubt. But very little actually exists in the extremes. The reality is that life is far more grey - or, more accurately, a multitude of shades and colours. Layers of depth. Complex, living, breathing, and infinitely more interesting than any fixed idea of how something should be.

What often happens is that we witness a family member's behaviour and judge it on a surface level, without understanding the experiences that created it. And we react - rejecting not just the behaviour, but the person themselves. These overcorrections don’t save us from unhealthy emotional responses, or from being abused or manipulated. In fact, they can lead us into those very possibilities. When ...

We’ve been taught to believe that our genes are set in stone. That if our mother had anxiety, we will too. If our grandfather developed a certain illness, it’s only a matter of time before we do. If our ancestors aged poorly, so will we.

But here’s the truth: nothing is fixed - not even your genetic expression.

We don’t just inherit eye colour or bone structure. We inherit belief systems, energetic patterns, and outdated worldviews. These hand-me-downs can shape the way we see the world, and the way our bodies respond to it.

Ancestral experiences live in us, not just emotionally or psychologically, but physically. Illness, imbalance, deterioration, disconnection - so much of it can be tracked across generations. But that doesn’t mean we’re doomed to repeat the past.

Science tells us that only about 5% of diseases are fully penetrant - meaning you will experience them no matter what. And even that, I’d argue, can shift. Because the rest? It's all responsive, adaptable, changeable.

Space + Time: A Return Home

I recently sat in meditation, moving deeper and deeper within, and experienced one of the most profound healings and realisations I’ve had in a long time. I was shown the relationship between Space and Time - specifically, how creating spaciousness is at the very heart of our healing, our insights, and our ability to truly change.

Take a moment now to tune into your body. Notice any tightness that lies within. Feel the places where there’s a lack of space. Watch how your conditioning, your fixed ideas, and habitual patterns pull you in, causing you to constrict in unnatural ways. The mind, the thoughts, the fear that pulses through, it all contributes to a state of contraction.

Now imagine allowing some expansion. A loosening. Picture your breath deepening, your muscles softening, your mind easing. Thoughts begin to flow more clearly. Emotions move unhindered. Energy starts to circulate freely.

Without space, there’s too much noise. No room to process. Y...

Lately, I’ve been thinking about Hungry Ghosts. I’ve been witnessing this aspect rising in the people around me, and it’s showing up enough that it feels time to name it, face it, and ask: What is it that haunts us? What are we trying to feed that can never be full?

There are many religious and philosophical takes on this archetype/aspect, but they all circle one core truth - a deep, abiding hunger that cannot be satisfied.

Think back to a time when you ate all day but never really felt full. Or when you longed for someone's attention or appreciation, but it just wasn’t there. Or maybe you went to a concert expecting a rush of joy, and the band was off, it didn’t land, it didn’t lift you.

These are small ways the Hungry Ghost begins to show itself. But the roots always run deeper...

The Hungry Ghost whispers through our cravings and can tie directly into addiction, obsession, and compulsion. Whatever we’re obsessed with ends up owning us - it pulls at us, drains us, and keeps us fr...

Welcome to Taurus Season, the first Earth sign of the zodiac, where our feet touch the earth, and we learn to embrace the human experience...

Developmentally, Taurus represents our toddler years, when we’re learning to master our growing bodies, understand big emotions, and discover how to interact with the world around us. We’re learning about physicalness, and what it means to be human. Big learning, new experiences, lots of processing in each moment.

And though this season might sound like a difficult one, it is ruled by Venus - who seeks beauty, love, support, and grace in everything that is witnessed.

So many of us view the human experience as a difficult one. We often feel confused, overwhelmed, doubtful. And when we do, we reject the experience - our bodies, minds, emotions, and all that is here for us.

This is your reminder: this is happening for us, not to us.

When we face the new, when we feel challenged or lost, the reaction can be to turn away, shy away, run away. But ...

Happy Easter to each of you, and welcome to your new light!

Over the past few days, we’ve been relinquishing the identities and limitations of the past. Facing old fears of change, brushing up against the unknown, and beginning to become familiar with it. The liminal is never a comfortable place, but it is a necessary one. Without it, we stagnate and decay. Now, we awaken - renewed - and step into the light.

Today represents an emerging. Not just a time of rest and reflection, but of embracing the new. Many speak of rebirth or renewal. I invite you to go one step further - into total luminosity, total newness.

Think of it as shedding a husk or skin. Once that’s gone, something else has to emerge. You can try to cling to the old label, but it stops something brighter and fresher from coming through.

So don’t see this as a renewal of the old, but a total cleansing, for something wholly new. I know it may feel like a leap. It might trigger fear. But if you’re seeking real liberation, ...

Energetically and spiritually, we're navigating through an interesting few days. Today is Good Friday. Sunday is Easter.

On a spiritual level, these days invite us to examine our lives, and the polarity between sacrifice and renewal.

In many religious teachings, sacrifice is held as a virtue, a necessary part of devotion and transcendence. We’re told stories that exalt those who give up everything to prove their love, their worth, their faith. There’s an underlying belief that to get closer to God, we must surrender what we love most.

I want to offer an alternative view - one that feels higher in both perspective and vibration. One that feels more aligned with the spirit of teachings meant to elevate us, not keep us suffering.

We make choices all day long, hundreds of them.
When to get out of bed. What to eat. What to wear.
And more impactful decisions about our careers, relationships, and health.

Much of our identity is built upon and threaded through these choices.
If I believe I a...

A few months ago, I sat in meditation, asking what the focus of my work should be throughout the Spring. I offered a few ideas, which were gently set aside. And then the word Ancestors sang through.

Ancestral work has always been woven through the healing and teachings I offer. It is so important, because the beliefs, characteristics, emotions, and lived experiences of our family lines are etched into our DNA, present in nearly every cell. Those who came before us have a very real foothold in our present.

One of the biggest surprises in working with genetics is how deeply we can be impacted by people whose names we don’t even know, whose stories were never told. And yet, somehow, we carry their unfinished business.

If an ancestor believed they failed…
If they broke a promise…
If they carried guilt for the choices they made…
We may find ourselves entangled in the after-effects, playing out the punishment, feeling the shame, struggling with invisible burdens.

Many of us come from lineag...

I've been listening to Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism lately, and I keep having to pause it, often mid-sentence, to ponder the points within...

I shared a piece of this during one of the recent eclipse events, but it’s asking to be mentioned again, with more space to explore.

There’s a passage in the book about being open that stopped me - We tend to revere those who seem open-hearted, open-minded. We place them on pedestals, believing that they are the enlightened ones, the “examples,” the ones who figured it out.

But we’re missing the whole point.

Because being open isn’t some rare, saintly feat. It’s not reserved for mystics or those who meditate at sunrise every day.

Openness is our natural state. It’s actually easier to be open than it is to be closed, guarded, defending, suspicious.

Take that in:
We believe that kindness is rare.
That compassion is hard.
That love is fleeting.
But none of that is true.

The truth? At the core of each of us is love, honour, grace.

And mo...

What a weekend! The Aries Solar Eclipse has ignited, activated, and illuminated the path ahead. Some may feel the momentum as an effortless next step. Others may meet resistance, confusion, or fear. But here’s the truth: drifting through life, waiting for direction to appear, isn’t going to work. Your mission (should you choose to accept it) is to consciously choose the path, set the course, and then take it.

Lately, I’ve been shown again and again the relationship between Form and Flow. But this time, the focus has been on the importance of choosing the form first.

We love to talk about flow states, how they can heal, inspire, and make life easier. But here’s what often gets overlooked: Flow requires a structure to move through. It needs a container, a direction, a choice.

Try this (and let your inner child play with the idea) -

If you want to move, think, feel, and create with ease, what 'shape' would support that? A cheetah is built for speed. A jet is engineered for flight. An ...